I'm Alone... not Lonely

Posted by on Thursday, July 19, 2012

It's no secret that I'm not in a relationship.  It's also no secret that I'm not really looking for a relationship.

I'm okay with this.

I'm actually really okay with this.

Because I like my time alone.  Doing what I please, when I please and how I please.

Or I don't doing things because I just don't feel like it (like dishes, laundry and putting on pants).

I am very good at entertaining myself.  I'm not afraid to go to the movies, out for dinner or to sporting events or theatre productions by myself.

I'm not afraid to travel (and actually prefer to do so) alone.

I'm not afraid to just sit on my couch for an evening watching every episode of Sea Patrol (as a side... what am I going to do when I run out of episodes? I've only got four left until the end of the series!).

But (just like the whole choosing not to have kids thing), I'm not broken because I choose not to be in a relationship, nor choose to look for one.

There is a difference between "alone" and "lonely".  If I'm feeling lonely, I'll reach out to friends and family... I go and do something... I don't (or try not to) sit around and mope.

And if I do, I aim for a very short pity party.

I am happy.

Just leave me be.

(This post was inspired by my best friend... I think we may be going through the same thing right now...)

2 Comments

  1. oh yes...I am at this same juncture in my life! I enjoy having my time to do what i want, even if it's nothing!!

    I love roaming around home without clothes on and not worrying if my fat is showing. who cares? my lazy cats?

    And I'm good company for myself. I don't feel lonely, so what is the problem?

    I firmly believe, that when it's the right person, it won't feel like you are giving up your awesome time to date them....at least, that is what I'm holding out for!!

    when i feel like I've had too much alone time, I reach out to my friends and family to get out of the house!

    I'm pretty sure, after the scores of self help books that I've read...that this is just the point when you meet Mr. Right. Just when you are happy with being alone...

    buckle up!

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  2. Yeah, I was so pissed to be honest. Like I am fine most of the time with being alone. Sometimes I wonder what would have been if I hadn't gotten cancer and I still felt like dating. But at this point, I don't. And that is ok! I do not need anyone to pray for me. And if I say I'm fine and happy, it is ok to believe me.. sometimes I may just act like I"m ok, but for the most part.. I really am ok.

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