Life...

So, my ex has no threatened a lawyer on me because EIGHT months after he signed a legally-binding separation agreement he has deemed it to be unfair because he didn't get a portion of the house... he keeps asking for what is fair... to which he never gives a monetary amount... is fair his portion of the mortage that I have been paying? Is fair his portion of the bathroom renovation that I finished? Is fair the fact that for the past six years I have been paying the lions share of the mortgage payments even though he has been living rent free when he is working? Is that fair? I don't think so. I think fair is that I didn't ask for alimony, that I didn't ask for a portion of his pension, I didn't ask to stay on his life insurance, etc. I also think that I have been rather grown up about the process in the fact that I didn't ask for him to sign the agreement without making any changes (he did that all on his own), that I have been reasonable in telling him that he still has stuff at the house, that I have been hand-delivering his mail to his mom's house for the past eight months because he is to bloody lazy to change his address...

I now have a separation agreement that I was informed by a lawyer this morning that can be contested for up to two years... and that in all honesty it doesn't matter that I put almost $20,000 towards the house in the beginning, that I am the one that has been living in it and making sure all the bills are paid and that all his bills were paid... even though for the past three years he has been making more money than me. I am the one that even though I thought buying a burnt orange huge hemi Dodge pick-up with a freakin' spoiler was the most retarded thing on Earth, I made sure that it was paid for (and the insurance) every month...

I don't know how far I will get with this. I mean if I buy him out for his portion of the house I will probably have to up the mortgage to $160,000 or so, and I don't know if they will let me do that - not because I don't have the money but I think that they only re-mortgage for up to 75% of the value of the home and I don't think that I could reasonably get more than $190,000 for the house. That said, if he opens the house to discussion, then I will open alimony to the discussion... which to me will hopefully just be able to reduce the amount that I would have to re-mortgage the house for. 'Cause in my mind... if I owe him say $35,000 from the house (saying that we could have gotten approximately $160,000 for it at the time we split - house prices are going up here at an attrocious rate and it is worth probably closer to $180,000 now) since he would still be on the books for owing half of what we still did on the place (a total of $90,000 ~ his share $45,000)... and he owes me a total of about $15,000 in alimony (that would be calculated over an approximately 3-5 year span) - then technically I owe him $20,000 - which I could then re-mortgage the house for and be able to afford it since that would bring my total mortgage to $140,000 and I think that the bank would go for that.

He keeps asking for what is fair, and I don't know what his version of fair is... I really don't... if I offered him $10,000 to shut the f*ck up and leave me alone would he go for it? I guess that is why I have a lawyers appointment on Wednesday (and one on Friday at a different firm if I don't like what the Wednesday guy tells me)... to figure out where I stand... if we just go by the BC Assessment value then to me we would take the 2005 and the 2006 number, add them up and divide by two (since this happened in the middle of the year), and that would be the value of the house... and he is going to be pissed off since I called the lawyers in town that he likes and he can't use them now since it would be a conflict of interest...

Okay - that is enough rambling... I am going to go to lunch with Jenn now and we can sit and bitch about life - it will be great... we think very much the same and I like that. Then I am going to come home and prepare myself for an evening of hockey - hopefully the Canucks can pull it off in less than seven periods of hockey tonight.

Thanks to everyone that actually reads this... writing in my blog is rather cathartic... it is the closest thing I have had to a diary since I was in high school (and that lasted only about two weeks)...