Happy National Singles Week

by - Wednesday, September 24, 2008

So, I was doing my morning google reader reading networking and Noelle (who has some great points that I totally agree with) over at The Daily Tannenbaum wished everyone a Happy National Singles Week (or the politically correct National Unmarried and Single Americans Week)... so of course... being happy and single myself I decided to hop on over and see what it was all about. Now I am not American... but I am sure they will let a few lowly Canadians take part in the event... we need some new holidays up this way.

Turns out that it seems most of our taken friends think that we singles are a miserable group of people... unhappy, doomed, incomplete and pitiful... damn - that pitiful comment really hit hard. I am so not the type to lead weekly pity parties.

I am not any of those... I have tried the married thing and it didn't work. I do not begrudge my married friends for being married. Power to them for finding someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with. I hope it works for them. I wish no ill-will on the taken and married people of my life. Really.

Being single gives me an opportunity to learn about myself and what makes me tick. I get to do things when I want, how I want and don't have to worry about 'pleasing' another person - or god forbid - have that other person get in the way. That doesn't mean that I don't have the odd weekend where nothing is planned and sometimes I wish I had someone to do stuff with - but those weekends are few and far between and in all honesty - being an independent single woman and all - the odd weekend without doing stuff works well for me too.

Do I want to eventually find someone? Yes. Am I in a rush to do so? Not so much. I am not willing to settle just because I feel like I need someone. I don't need a crutch. I want a perfect guy for me... not a perfect guy... because honestly - perfect guys would be too much work. For me. Can you imagine trying to keep up with all his perfectness? Gawd. Do I want to get married again? Not really. I honestly (even though I have tried it) have never seen myself as a marriage person. Commitment is where it is at for me - I don't need rings and paperwork to tell me someone is committed. Because I also know that rings and paperwork do not make someone stay committed.

And to all my taken and married friends... I am sure there is a week for you out there too... or better yet - you have anniversaries to celebrate... let us singles have a whole week to celebrate singledom!

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  1. I think you've got a great take on the whole thing! Long live singles! (Until we eventually become couples...)