"Oh, loneliness and cheeseburgers are a dangerous mix."

by - Friday, February 20, 2009

eHarmony just offered me a "buy 1 month, get 2 months free" deal... which I may sign up for just so I can see the pictures of those guys who I am matched with.

Why you ask?

Well, because Patrick, who I got into open communication with during the free weekend does not... how do I say this without sounding like a raging bitch that makes her choice of men based solely on looks alone (which I don't)... do it for me. I could have totally closed the match early on if I had seen the picture. And just so you can get an idea of what I am dealing with here... picture this:
His e-mails have been so-so... nothing earth shattering... but... his physical appearance just doesn't do it for me. At all.

So - now how do I not come across as a totally superficial person when I don't really reply to his e-mail with as much interest as I may have previously replied?

Because, he is going to know it is because he sent his picture.

I doubt that he will think it is because when I asked for an answer to the question "If you could do something totally out of character and remain anonymous what would you do?"... here was the answer...

Probably tell someone I had a huge crush on them. I mean, they wouldn't know who it was, right? Yes, I would like to meet someone, but I can be terribly shy at first. but I do open up. The reason I am probably still single at this point in my life is that I have been so shy in the past I never told anyone how I felt about them. To shy for my own good. Now you know. In time, there may be something I would like to tell you. But I think that conversation would overcome this fear of telling someone how you feel.

I should have guessed he was a 31-year-old virgin right then (okay... I don't actually know if the virgin part can be substantiated).

Carmen = online dating failure.


* The title of this post is an actual Comic Book Guy quote from the Simpsons... yeah... I am lame.

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  1. Anonymous3:50 PM

    Uh, ok, so his answer to your question kinda sucked. He probs is a 31 year old virgin. Good grief. That is not a very exciting answer. Good luck with that one... I too think that I might sign up for the buy 1 get 3 months free... I agree with you that pictures are important, but then sometimes picture don't really do me justice all the time ... let me know how that one works out for you ... Have a fun with hockey this weekend. I have lots of watching and playing as well. ttyl

  2. My answer would be run naked in the streets.

    Wanna date me ;)

    Happy Hockey Day!

  3. eww eww eww eww! This reminds me of so many of the bad experiences I've had with online dating. The only good part is that you can blog about it, haha. :)

  4. Not being attracted to someone doesn't make you shallow. I mean, if the ONLY thing you cared about was a guy's appearance, or who made his clothing, then yeah, superficial in a bad way. But you have to be attracted to the person you're dating! That's like the one thing that changes someone from a close friend to a boyfriend. Don't feel guilty.

  5. Anonymous10:31 AM

    It wasn't ONLY his appearance that turned you off. His comments and conversation are less than scintillating. Tell him you're pursuing other options.

    okcupid.com is a free dating site (with a neat matching algorithm designed by harvard grad students) where I met my husband... no money spent!